Te Rongopai DVD
Dr Stuart Lange presents a five-part series documenting the story of the Gospel in New Zealand from Samuel Marsden forwards – its impact, the complications, and the way Christianity has had a significant impact in shaping New Zealand society both then and now.
DVD: 65 mins in 5 chapters and can be played in any zone
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Nikki Bray and her husband Andy are very ordinary people in whom, and through whom, God has done an extra-ordinary work. Nikki and Andy received the NZ Christian Network Unsung Hero award in 2013 for their ministry in the area of marriage and family, and their faithful witness to Jesus Christ.
The following post from Nikki is worth a read… and the link to a 3-minute humorous video clip with a serious message. If you like it, why not follow them on Facebook, and maybe even get along to one of their seminars. See FamilyLife for more info.
So many wrote to say how much you enjoyed Brene´Brown that I decided to do a follow-up.
I received a phone call today at the FamilyLife office – another SOS. One of our volunteers has a friend whose son was killed 2 months ago in a car crash. She wants to know what she can do to make the Mum feel better. Oh … my heart went right out to her friend! Gosh, in that situation nothing can make you feel better. When our world comes crashing down like that we don’t want to feel better, we just want our life to return to normal; to the way that it was. It can take some of us a while to realise that that can never happen. We need someone to walk the journey with us. We want someone who can identify with our pain and help us carry the burden. We want some empathy.
As I said, I mentioned Brene´Brown in my last update – she really is a superstar. Take a look at this little video on the difference between empathy and sympathy.
I love her line “rarely does an empathic response begin with ‘at least'”. The desire in us to make another person feel better often drives us to use the words “at least”. I had it happen to me when Natasha died. “At least you had her for 16 years” or, “at least she died doing something she enjoyed”, or “at least her life left a meaningful impact”. Words of truth from some well-meaning people who really wanted to help, but didn’t quite know how to.
I admit that in the past I’ve used those words too: “At least …”. I’ve since learnt that it’s only the person carrying the burden who has the right to use the words, “at least”. Brene´’s last line is powerful “rarely can a response make something better; what makes something better is connection”.
And that’s my hope. That when someone is hurting, I must resist the urge to try and make it better. Instead, I can just truly listen from their perspective and try to connect to their pain. I can’t make it better, or the person better, but they may feel felt! And hopefully they won’t feel alone in their pain.
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